Boundaries are one of the most common things that bring people into my practice, in one form or another.

I went through my own journey with this - realising mine were either missing or set far too low, then having to sit with that and slowly work out where they actually needed to be. Healthy boundaries are not something most of us grow up with modelled for us. Most people carry some unresolved version of this into adult life without ever quite noticing.

A Few Signs It Might Be Time to Look at Yours

  1. You struggle to say no, especially to people close to you
  2. You come away from certain people or situations feeling completely drained
  3. You catch yourself in a lot of negative self-talk, frustrated with yourself
  4. You often find yourself blaming others, or circumstances, for how things have gone
  5. Your relationships feel like hard work, and you struggle to say what you actually feel

If several of those land, it does not mean anything has gone wrong - boundaries can be built or adjusted at any point, and they will keep evolving as you do.

Five Places to Start

  1. Start listening to your body - it tends to know before your head catches up
  2. Stop apologising for things that were never your responsibility
  3. Practise saying no when you mean it, without over-explaining
  4. Put yourself in the equation - not instead of others, but alongside them
  5. Keep coming back to who you actually are, underneath what you think you should be

None of this happens overnight, but it changes both your professional and personal relationships more than people expect.

Agatha x