Have you got an emotional knot waiting to be released?
A great therapist is like a masseuse, they identify the knots and massages through them.
You have probably felt the prolonged and bluntly frustrating tension of a knot or knots lodged in your neck or shoulders, it can be really irritating and painful. It feels like something terribly uncomfortable sits there and you cannot move your arms or neck the way it should freely shift.
So where are the knots coming from?
According to www.medicalnewstoday.com muscle knots are small, bump-like areas of muscle that can be painful to the touch or movement. Medically speaking, they are called “mayofacial trigger points” and they can be active or latent. The active ones do not need to be touched to be painful, when the latent ones have to pressed to be felt. They can be really painful, affect the motion and also spread the pain onto nearby muscle tissue.
The most common reasons for getting muscle knots are: stress and tension, bad posture and injuries, although bad diet and unhealthy lifestyle are also guilty of it, amongst many other factors. The main thing is, we can cure our knots and even prevent them from occurring in the future. Massage would be the most powerful option to go for, however, there is usually more than one solution to each problem. What that means, is applying a change. A change in our posture, lifestyle, the intake of water, increase of exercises, reducing stress levels etc etc.
So, whilst I was getting my knots massaged off my neck and shoulders, a simple and interesting analogy crossed my mind, that a massage is exactly like psychotherapy or counselling. We decide to see a specialist in this field, when we no longer cope on our own. We want the knot to be finally removed from our body, and we know that it will hurt, as it does, knots hurt. But we also know, that we will feel better after. The subtle difference between a good masseuse and just a masseuse is, that the good masseuse will educate us on things we my need to apply to prevent getting so many knots in the future. The good masseuse will ask questions that will help them and us understand where the knots may have come from. Was that our bad posture, diet, stress? In order to change something we do, we need to understand why we need to change this. Adults can learn new things, but a logic needs to be applied. Whilst kids very often take given information for granted or shy away from questioning, adults need to comprehend the mechanism to understand what certain actions are causing. Only then, adults will take a conscious decision to either change certain behaviours or not. Whilst kids may be forced to take a particular path or way of thinking, adults have a choice.
I really love the analogy of therapist being like a masseuse for our ‘emotional knots’, because it fits perfectly well! We do have a pain, the therapist presses the knots by asking us questions, and the more we talk about this ‘knot’ the less it hurts, as long as the right questions are asked. Questions, that will allow us to change the feeling about the ‘knot’, and just prod the ‘knot’. The ‘knot’ needs to be pressured firmly enough to start dissolving, yet gentle enough for us to cope with the pain in the process. Of course, it will take time to untangle a large knot, but it is possible. As long as we see the way it has been twisted in the first place, we can deal with it.
I wrote this article in response and acknowledgement to ever such a popular movement of approaches that propose and offer to fix our problems within 1-3 sessions. And as I totally pro these fast moving approaches, as I myself see them as highly beneficial and I use them too in my practice, I know the importance of working on the ‘knots’ before building up or expanding other parts of muscles.
As always thank you for reading and I would love to know your thoughts on the topic.
Love & Gratitude