Adam, 52, Financial Consultant, Wiltshire, 2021
Having recently lost both my parents, also dealing with complex family issues and experiencing two unexpected work redundancies, alongside bringing up a young family I found myself increasingly more depressed and turning to alcohol as an escape to feel less unhappy. I had moved into a place where I had self-rationalised this as being normal and ok, given the circumstance of life around me. As a person that enjoys being fit and generally self-disciplined, I found myself feeling increasingly lost and de-motivated, and with the drinking came hangovers, weight gain, lack of self-confidence and a diminished sense of humour.
Working with Agatha equipped me with the psychological and spiritual tools to uncover many of the root causes and emotional triggers that were leading me to self-limiting habits and behaviours that I had developed over many years. I was able to face these in a systematic and personally meaningful way that meant I could adopt new ways of tackling what it was that was making me un-happy and overcome this, and to do so incrementally over time. There were some quick wins and some changes understandably needed a longer term to resolve.
I successfully quit drinking for a month and have done this twice now, breaking an almost 30 year habit. My drinking is much more in control, it can sometimes still be a battle though its one I know I can win now. I have also taken much more control over many aspect of my life and stripped back many of the self-limiting thoughts and behaviours that had been an unconscious part of me and the decision I had made for years. I have achieved many more of things I wanted to get from life and found new ways to give back and help others. I overall feel a much greater level of self-awareness and am conscious to the influences that lead to my decisions. Most of all I have found a greater level of acceptance, peace and positivity with the challenge’s life puts our way. I cannot recommend working with Agatha enough to anyone looking to make lasting, positive changes to their life.
Madeleine, 34, GP Doctor, Surrey ,2021
Before the process, I was crippled by self doubt, anxiety and fear. I found it very difficult to express what I wanted and to take decisions in my life. The biggest insight that I took from the process was taking ownership of my life. I realised that I can control how I react to daily challenges and difficult situations both personally and professionally. The process helped me to feel less helpless and empowered to take decisions. I am not completely cured of the problems that I had when I started the process but I feel like I have the tools to be able to deal with life’s challenges!
Ayla, 27, Lawyer, Hampshire, 2021
Before I started my journey with Agatha, I had faced several life challenges which cumulatively left me at a low point where I often felt emotionally/mentally exhausted. I had a poor relationship with myself as being diagnosed with two STIs left me with feelings of shame, guilt and unworthiness. Similarly, I had an unhealthy relationship with others, in particular my family where I constantly sought their approval and subconsciously relied on them to guide me and influence my life choices. My low self-esteem affected every aspect of my life, all the way from my outlook on life to every relationship I had, including friendships and my once healthy relationship with my boyfriend.
Agatha helped transform my life where instead of playing the victim, I was able to empower myself and determine my own future.
We unpicked my childhood and exposed the deep-rooted origins of my issues. Then once I developed this awareness and acceptance of why I and others reacted the way we did, I could then de-weaponize their actions and improve my own. Agatha helped me build a healthy relationship with myself where I developed skills for self-love, acceptance and trust. She shifted my perspective on life events, so instead of viewing them as hardships I was able to use them as learning experiences which would help mould and strengthen my character. We worked on ways to identify and deal with my emotions so I wasn’t as emotionally labile.
Agatha helped me free my authentic self so that I could live my life how I felt right. She inspired me to start the lifelong journey of self-development so I that I can work towards becoming the best version of myself.
It was a pleasure working with Agatha and I would highly recommend it as she is a genuine, loving and professional psychotherapist.
Leanne, 51, Teacher, Kent, 2020
I found Agatha online when searching for a solution to the difficulty in my relationship with my daughter. Fortunately, my daughter was on board too, and so we had online counselling together.
Agatha gave lots of practical tips, alongside the counselling, for example relating to communication with other people – and how to better facilitate difficult (or, in fact any) communication. This tool has been helpful, not only in my relationship with my daughter, but in other situations too. For me, personally, something which struck a chord was the difference between ‘expectations’ and ‘intentions’. It is subtle but very impactful when shifting gear from one to the other. Also remembering that we are not responsible for the actions of other people, but only our own responses to them.
My daughter and I ironed out several things which needed to be said, in an environment that was safe. Agatha is very professional in keeping the dialogue open and honest and she ensures that both parties are given fair ‘air time’ whilst treating each without bias. She listens carefully and picks up on areas that need further investigation.
I can highly recommend Agatha, and only wish that we had been able to meet in person (our sessions were online). I have kept her details and would certainly consult with her again for any future issues too.
Jack, 22, IT, Buckinghamshire, 2019
I started seeing Agatha after a friend recommended I start therapy and after a few sessions began working towards making positive changes that were highlighted in my sessions. After being in a low point for a long time, I felt like genuine progress was being made towards being in a place that I wanted to be at, where I was aspiration, motivated and happy again. I would strongly recommend Agatha to anyone who was considering therapy to help tackle anything they were unhappy or struggling with.
Judy, 65, Retired Teacher, London, 2019
I contacted Agatha in the hope of understanding a relationship problem with my daughter who has cut off all communication with me, without explaining why. Agatha helped me to truly acknowledge that we see things differently from each other and to accept this. Immediately, I felt a great weight leave my shoulders. I have learnt that I don’t need to control others lives by helping them to run smoothly, but to allow my daughter and other family members to take responsibility for their decisions and actions.
For many years I was almost living as a single parent while my husband worked away and even when he was home, didn’t engage with our three children or help out in any way. I took sole responsibility for everything and didn’t ask for his help. I found it very hard to accept this was my fault, as I had done all the hard work! Agatha help me talk to my husband calmly and explain how I felt unsupported. She explained that by showing my strength to my children, and not actually showing my feelings, may have led my daughter to not be able to express her feelings either, but to bottle up her problems leading to some depression. I learnt she had been depressed by reading an article she wrote and published online. In turn it seems this led to her feelings of low self worth. We also have a son with learning difficulties and mental illness which would have been very hard growing up with. It seems this has caused my daughter a lot of pain, which she wasn’t able to discuss with me.
Agatha helped me understand that cutting off all communication from me was our daughter’s decision alone, and that I don’t need to feel the responsibility for that decision.
While I feel incredibly sad not to see our daughter and her family, with Agatha’s insights and advice, I can respect her decision and wait until she is ready to re-connect. In the meantime with Agatha’s encouragement I send occasional short messages of love to my daughter so she knows I love her and want to see her when she is ready.
I knew the moment I first spoke to Agatha that we clicked. Within the first hour she so generously shared her deep knowledge of human relationships, which helped me immeasurably. She is warm, kind and honest and I would recommend her highly.