My Path Here
My path here was not a straight line, and I do not think the tidy version does it justice. I was brought up in a strict, religious household - properly sheltered, and part of a very “patchwork-style” family. My late teens and twenties were rebellious ones, and I made plenty of decisions I would not make again: the wrong partners, relationships that were toxic and at times emotionally or physically abusive, years spent immersed in shame and self-loathing over choices I could not undo. I lived with depression and social anxiety for long stretches, and with the kind of high-intensity emotions that caused me real trouble before I understood what to do with them.
What changed things was not a straight path to a diploma. I trained alongside someone who used both counselling and coaching, and who was, crucially, a real person with a real past - not a polished professional hiding behind a title. That connection moved me forward faster than anything else had. I have a philosophical background by nature, which has always kept me curious about what unfolds rather than certain I already know the answer.
“One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.”
Sigmund Freud
I do not have everything sorted. I too am a human being. What I do have is the understanding of why I was making the choices I was, and why I kept attracting the same kind of people and situations - and that awareness is what made it possible to actually create a shift. That is the work I do with clients too: not just talking about what happened, but building the awareness that lets you do something different with it.
My training includes a PgDip in Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy from Middlesex University, a Diploma in Clinical Supervision, and a Certificate in Group Facilitation from The Gestalt Centre, London. I am also a certified Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach, trained through the Rosjke Hasseldine Training Academy.
Training does not stop once the certificates are framed. As a qualified Clinical Supervisor, I also support other therapists in their own practice - work that keeps me close to the wider field, constantly learning, and accountable to a standard higher than "good enough." Every credential behind my name is independently verifiable through its governing body, listed below.
Why I Do This Work
I know what it feels like to be stuck, to choose the wrong path, and to begin again. That experience shapes everything about how I work - with deep confidentiality, radical acceptance, and a belief that real change happens through honest, empowering dialogue, not judgement.
I do not believe in a one-size-fits-all model of therapy, and I am wary of anyone who claims to have one. What I offer instead is genuine curiosity about your specific life, your specific patterns, and what change would actually mean for you - not a generic template applied regardless of who walks through the door.
What I Believe
I keep an open mind about what unfolds around me - shaped partly by a philosophical background, partly by simply living long enough to be proven wrong a few times. A few things I hold onto:
- No encounter is accidental - we can learn something from almost everyone who crosses our path.
- Nothing is permanent. Everything and everyone changes and evolves, constantly.
- We can learn anything, at any age.
- We are the only limit for ourselves.
And my personal favourite: everything is always working out for me.
A Note on Neurodivergence
I hold a special interest in neurodivergent presentations, particularly ASD, ADHD, and mixed-neurotype pairings, and their impact on communication, intimacy, and relational functioning - an area I believe is significantly underserved in traditional therapy. This is something I factor into couples and psychosexual work directly, rather than treating it as a separate service.